Alcohol addiction is a serious disease that suppresses the will and disturbs the human psyche. Therefore, drunkards should be treated like sick people and nothing else. It is necessary to remember that it will not work to stop the alcoholic with scandals, convictions and bitterness. This can only be done at the cost of great effort and self-control. When taking action, the woman must be ready for a fierce fight, as it is not easy to make the man give up drinking
When it comes to female alcoholism, the situation is even worse. Men, children, relatives of alcoholics should understand that it is much harder to persuade a woman than a man. As a rule, the addict categorically denies having a problem, considers himself perfectly healthy and does not want to change anything. The treatment seems pointless to her, and she considers all the beliefs and advice of relatives as a personal insult.
Important! This article will discuss how to get a person to quit drinking without going to court or a mental hospital. If a drunk has signs of mental disorders or poses a threat to others, it is necessary to seek outside help as soon as possible.
How to talk to an alcoholic
it is very difficult to force an alcoholic to turn to specialists, ordinary conversations or ultimatum requests cannot be addressed here. You have to choose a certain way of talking, gain patience and endurance. For this, narcologists-psychotherapists recommend following certain recommendations.
Wait for "X" clock. It is useless to talk about dealing with a drunk person, because in such a state he is very happy with his life and sees no real problems. In the morning after drinking, you also should not start a similar conversation, because in a dependent state, the alcoholic will agree with all the arguments and promise everything you want to hear from him.
also important in what tone the conversation will be. The main thing is to reject the accusations and reprimands, which will only worsen the situation and subconsciously turn the patient against you. Do not raise your voice, it is better to speak calmly, because alcohol seriously disrupts the structures of the nervous system, so the conversation can easily develop into another scandal or, even worse, into physical violence from a drunk.
How to influence an alcoholic
Convincing a drunkard that alcoholism is a problem not only for him but also for the environment is not easy. To do this, the relatives of the drunk will have to have patience, perseverance and also find an approach to understanding how to make a loved one be treated for alcoholism.
it is impossible to convince an alcoholic who is euphoric and satisfied with such a lifestyle to stop drinking soon. It is inappropriate to conduct an educational conversation during a hangover syndrome. In such a state, the patient will not pay attention to persuasion, though he will make various promises in order to end the conversation as soon as possible and receive a sparing dose of alcohol.
Better yet to start a conversation when a drunk is facing the negative consequences of "intoxicating" drinks. It could be:
- impregnated salary;
- destroyed car;
- dismissal;
- family problems.
You can not succeed with accusations and insults. Thus, putting a person who drinks on the path of correction will not work, even if you really want to. In order for the drunkard to pay attention to obedience, here are some tips:
- should talk to an alcoholic calmly, without raising the tone. It is undesirable to shout, as such actions on the part of loved ones can provoke an unpleasant reaction in the drunkard. This is explained by the fact that alcoholics have an unstable nervous system and this is fraught with scandals or beatings;
- When talking to an addict, it is necessary to behave with confidence and determination that you are right. This will enable the opponent to understand the seriousness of the situation and the consistency of the interlocutor's opinion;
- there is no need to cry and apologize for a life that did not work out through the fault of an alcoholic. These actions will also not bring positive results;
- does not need to put pressure on the patient with empty threats. If you promise to do something if the intoxication continues, then you should definitely fulfill the ultimatum.
If one of the spouses drinks?
The tense situation in the family due to alcohol abuse by one of the spouses is not a reason for his forced release from addiction.
This is prohibited by law and can cause significant harm to an alcoholic's health, especially if, without his or her consent and prior consultation with a physician, you add toxic disulfiram-based medicines to food.
Women or mothers of drunkards should not repeat the most common wrong steps of women:
- First of all, you need to understand that a drunk can not be trusted. His 100th promise to part with alcohol is a myth.
- it is impossible to threaten in an empty way, if your words are not supported by action, it is better not to just utter them. They convince the alcoholic of impunity.
- it is unacceptable to offend a spouse, you should be able to arouse in him a sense of guilt in his future unreasonable cheating (loss of money, late return home).
- Instead of unrealizable threats, it can cause fear of imminent death in a drunkard, indicating his health symptoms, characteristic of the possible development of cirrhosis or cancer.
- it is necessary to stop protecting the drunkard from the censorship of others, which will undoubtedly cause shame and a sense of remorse.
- it is necessary to limit the access of the drink to the family money, by not giving a single penny for alcohol.
- Discover the reason for your intoxication, especially when it comes to a woman. Without removing the cause of addiction, you can not get rid of it.
Motivation for a sober lifestyle
The hope of saving the family may persuade an alcoholic to give up drinking.
To motivate an alcoholic to fight the green snake, it is necessary to convey to him all the benefits of a prudent life, what benefits await him after quitting alcohol. There are different motivations.
You can focus on the well-being of the family, because alcohol abuse almost always leads to the destruction of the family. The hope of saving the family can persuade the alcoholic to stop drinking. Until alcohol dependence has reached a neglected rate, it is necessary to try to convey to the patient the need for treatment.
You can try talking about drinker health. Explain to him that you are seriously concerned that you have noticed how badly his health has become. Without reprimands and insults, it is necessary to explain that stomach problems and blood pressure, heart disorders - all this arose as a result of alcohol abuse.
If a person previously aspired to work and loved it, then you can try to put pressure on this factor. Smokers always have problems with work, from simple dismissal to dismissal according to the "alcoholic" article. If this happens, then it is almost impossible for a person to find a normal job. Remind them gently of what your spouse dreamed of when he or she was not drinking, how he or she planned his or her career.
If there is no definite motivation, it is almost impossible for an alcoholic to be treated. An addicted person needs to understand why he should be separated from addiction and what privileges this will give him. He should consciously want to leave for the sake of something important and not do it at the whim of the family.
Health
When talking to an alcoholic man, you should try to give the impression that you are worried about his deteriorating health. Important It is important to calmly explain that during the time of intoxication, the alcoholic showed negative changes in appearance:
- facial cyanosis,
- fryrje,
- beer belly;
- insomnia.
Alcoholics are also told about changes in character and behavior. You can compare the state of health of a drunkard at the time of a healthy lifestyle with the current state. Try with the patient to evaluate the changes that have occurred and convince them of the usefulness of treating the disease.
Alcoholism is a destructive instrument of family relationships, which often leads to divorce. Until a drunkard or alcoholic gains an advanced stage of pathology, there is a chance to save the family. It is necessary to try to convince the drinker of the need for treatment if the drunkard ceases to perform basic tasks:- passive in relation to spouse;
- is not interested in children;
- does not care for the material well-being of the family;
- is aggressive.
Try to convince the patient that he is dear to the family. The main thing in this matter is to calmly, without rebuke, convey the idea of the need for treatment.
Finding a new job in such a situation is not easy. Even if this succeeds, the job will be low paid and unskilled. To help a person who drinks in this case, it is necessary to persuade him to change his lifestyle, to give reasons how much his life has changed for the worse since the beginning of alcohol abuse. Without motivation, a drunkard cannot be easily persuaded to seek treatment. It is important for the drinker to understand that this is exactly what he needs.
Can a person stop drinking on their own?
We would like to warn you: alcoholics' self-treatment is rarely effective. Sometimes with the help of character and will, this is possible if the alcohol addiction has not reached the physical stage. The basis for giving up an addiction is the desire to save a family, to find a job, a status in society or another goal, the achievement of which will be a reward for the efforts made. As a help for yourself, it is worth starting to practice proper nutrition, jogging, weekly bath procedures.
To combat alcoholism, popular treatment methods and medicines are widely used. Both options have pros and cons. They are often practiced when it is impossible to convince a boy, man or boy who drinks, of the harmfulness of the habit. There are pharmacological and folk remedies that cause extreme aversion to alcohol. They are harmless, do not cause dependence or rejection of the body. They contain substances that are completely incompatible with alcohol. They are added to the drink or food of the person who drinks.
After drinking alcoholic beverages, they cause an unpleasant reaction of the body: vomiting, nausea, dizziness, etc. The most common folk remedies are:
- thyme soup;
- ram soup;
- Decoction of cucumber.
An interesting method of secret persuasion to stop drinking existed in ancient times - dung mushroom. The mushroom contains a substance that stops the conversion of ethyl alcohol to acetaldehyde. If you eat a mushroom, then drink alcohol, then a person will have symptoms of severe poisoning. Our grandmothers in this way invisibly separated men from alcohol. But in modern realities, it is better not to use such a method, especially since medicine has made great strides forward.
How to get an alcoholic to recover - the right motivation
To persuade an alcoholic to be treated, communication tactics must be developed:
- stop feeling sorry and cover up the drinker. You should not expect the alcoholic to stop drinking. This nanny approach, which solves problems for him, is beneficial to the alcoholic, as a result he will not stop drinking but will get rid of daily worries;
- you can not constantly get in trouble with a drunk, so as not to push him into a cheerful lifestyle. It should be understood that hysteria and unnecessary discussions about the use of alcohol will exacerbate the problem, as after the next scandal the drunkard will try even harder for bottles;
- in relationships with a dependent person observe calmness and serenity. In the moments of enlightenment, the alcoholic talks about recovery from a bad habit and rehabilitation. It is permissible to call a narcologist at home;
- you need to support the drinking person's desire for prudence, demonstrate the pleasures of healing, try to find hobbies for him, new goals in life.
Only a few cases can be an exception to this order:
- the patient is dangerous to himself and others;
- the alcoholic has lost the ability to take care of himself;
- the mental state of the drunkard is serious, without medical intervention he will die.
Many people are interested in the question of whether it is really possible to save a loved one from addiction. After mandatory hospitalization for the patient, measures are taken to block a fever attack, after which the patient is discharged from the hospital and sent home. Practice shows that the patient, even after severe consequences of drinking, will still get the old one.
It is worth noting that it is impossible to secretly cure a sick alcoholic from him. Often, people close to the patient use the help of healers, psychics and other unconventional methods. Any means and action to cure an alcoholic without his consent are not only useless but also deadly.
In addition, the doctor will perform an examination. Developing a comprehensive patient healing strategy will allow you to move purposefully toward the goal. It will not be possible to cure a drunkard in a medical session or manipulation. In this case, it is required, first of all, to determine the reason that provoked the impetus for alcohol abuse.
How to properly treat an alcoholic in order for him to accept the therapy?
If a person denies his addiction to the "green snake", he must be convinced otherwise. How to persuade an alcoholic to be treated so that he clearly understands the existing problem? To do this, you need to talk to him seriously and the conversation should take place with a sober person. What to pay attention to:
- People who drink often have memory problems. It is worth remembering the unpleasant incidents in life that he forgot.
- The desire to take a sip in an alcoholic arises quite often and for no reason. It is necessary to explain to him that for ordinary people, troubles at work or at home will not cause pleasure.
- It is worth finding out what feelings an alcoholic has in a sober head. Frustration and emptiness are some of the hallmarks of addiction. He should be clearly aware of this.
- Alcohol addicts lose control and often do not know the norm. Because of this, a person regularly falls in love.
Conversation must take place once. It is advisable to do this when the alcoholic is in the mood for a conversation. For example, the day before he drunk something and was guilty. Each argument must be made with much confidence. You can not speak in a loud voice, suppress regret, use threats.
The alcoholic often behaves inappropriately during periods of intoxication. Moreover, such cases are completely forgotten and "thrown" from memory. In order for him to see himself from the side in these moments, video evidence can be filmed. Drinks will not like what he sees, he must draw conclusions and accept the treatment.
How to behave to tune a drunk in treatment:
- do not make threats that you are unable to meet;
- hints at how bad your boyfriend's behavior is when he's drunk;
- always show confidence in his ability to stop drinking;
- let a loved one understand that the disease is to blame for everything that can and should be fought;
- do not deal with the problems of alcoholism.
Tell us how hard it is to see a drunk person, how uncomfortable it is to hear strangers talking about an alcoholic cheating. He must understand that people close to him suffer from his addiction.
Any problem arising from intoxication should be corrected by the alcoholic himself. Paying off debts made at a whim, reconciling with relatives, confrontations with the boss - all this is decided by the culprit himself.
It can be any good reason to quit. Family happiness is a strong argument for starting treatment.
Recently, many experts have concluded that alcoholism is a disease. How to justify this statement and convince yourself to start treatment:
- Diagnostics. Every disease has symptoms, including alcoholism. It is expressed in an irresistible desire for alcohol, changes in behavior, denial of the desire for strong drinks.
- Chemical dependence. Because of it, a person starts abusing alcohol. Everyone has problems at home and at work, but only addicted people get drunk because of it.
- Progression of the disease. The development of alcoholism follows a predictable scenario. In the end, a person finally degrades.
- Alcoholism is a chronic disease. Therefore, a person who has not consumed alcohol for years breaks down from a glass of vodka.
- The consequence is death. If treatment is not started on time, the patient will die before the appointed time. The cause is usually concomitant disease: cirrhosis, heart attack, cardiomyopathy and other diseases.
Treating alcoholism takes a lot of time. You need to be patient and not give up under any circumstances. Some accept coding, which helps a lot of addicts. The main thing is for a person to understand a simple truth - he is absolutely forbidden to drink alcohol. It is an addiction that returns even after a few grams of alcohol. Therefore, for such people, prudence should become the norm.
How to find the cause of alcoholism
Treating alcohol dependence will be meaningless in 2 cases: if a person is satisfied with everything and he wants to drink further, or he has a good reason to seek solace in alcoholic beverages. If the provocative factor is eliminated, it will be much easier for an alcoholic to recover. It is impossible for him to give up drinking without coding.
Often the causes of chronic intoxication are quite obvious, so they can be identified without much difficulty. As a rule, the alcoholic himself calls them during a confidential conversation. If you can not ask yourself, then this can be done with the help of a psychologist. The specialist will find out why a person is unhappy with his life and give the necessary advice.
The most common causes of alcoholism:
- uninteresting, boring work or excessive free time;
- continuous drinking with friends, relatives or colleagues, gradually developing into alcohol dependence;
- unclear personal life, family quarrels, recent breakups, betrayal or loss of a loved one;
- lack of work or housing, poverty, undecided life, feeling hopeless;
- presence of severe chronic or fatal diseases, desire to relieve pain with alcohol;
- aggravated inheritance, predisposition to alcoholism.
Methods to help an alcoholic return to a normal life
If you have managed to convince an alcohol addict for treatment, you should immediately perform the following steps of the planned plan. Once the patient has agreed, you should go to an appointment with a narcologist in order for the specialist to prescribe the necessary therapy in this situation. To rule out breakdowns, remove any alcohol from the home and also rule out possible drunken meetings with former drinking companions.
It was quiet on paper, so do not think that you will be able to make your alcoholic negligent husband accept the treatment on the first try. This is a rather difficult task that requires a lot of patience, and somewhere even the cunning and ingenuity of a woman. But when the result is achieved, your life will change dramatically, which will be a worthy reward for your efforts.
There are a number of clinics that can forcibly admit a patient by court order. The therapy process itself is divided into several stages:
- Motivational conversation with a psychologist. In some cases, this measure helps the person become aware of the addiction and accept voluntary treatment.
- Compulsory hospitalization in a hospital unit.
- Detoxification procedure.
- Rehabilitation (includes drug coding, psychological support, hospitalization).
- Social adaptation. Help for a former alcoholic in finding a job, learning a new profession, psychological support.
- Working with relatives. This includes explanatory talks, participation in self-help groups, personal consultations with a psychologist.
The best solution is to take the drunkard to a specialist paid clinic offering compulsory treatment services. The disadvantage of this method is that keeping an alcoholic in a clinic for a long time requires large financial investments. So a day in the hospital will be expensive. The price depends on the region and the class of the hospital.
Another way is to place the patient in a psychiatric ambulance. This measure is considered extreme. You can only go to a psychiatric clinic with a court order or a psychiatric team (on-site experts decide on the need for urgent hospitalization). In the latter case, the presence of a police team is mandatory - they will record the presence of a real threat to the health of the patient or those around them.
Some believe it is possible to treat an alcoholic by force at home. Various herbal decoctions are considered particularly effective - they reduce the desire for alcohol.
Here is one of the recipes. Take in equal proportions (10 g each) the following ingredients:
- Motherwort.
- Horse tail.
- Dried burdock and sorrel roots.
- Mint.
Put the herbs in an enamel bowl, pour a glass of boiling water, and then heat for 15 minutes in a water bath. The resulting broth is filtered, drunk in small portions during the day. It is not recommended to prepare a drink for future use - it should always be boiled. If you want to cure a person of intoxication secretly, then you can add small portions of the infusion to alcoholic beverages.
You can also buy a ready-made herbal blend. It is famous for these properties:
- discourages the desire to drink alcohol;
- enhances the body's defenses;
- stimulates the immune system;
- helps eliminate toxins, cleanse the liver.
This drink is especially suitable because it is drunk and drunk as regular herbal tea in unlimited quantities throughout the day.
If people close to you managed to influence an alcoholic to undergo a course of medication and psychotherapy, it is important to decide on further action. The main task at the moment is to strengthen the motivation for a healthy lifestyle. Most addicted people see no point in being sober. Living the right way is scary because alcoholics do not know what to do next and how to enjoy life. To help such a person, close people should:
- to be convinced that an alcoholic is a selfish, weak-willed, infantile person. Fulfilling the drunkard’s desires just to keep him from drinking again is the wrong way. It is required to allow the patient to make decisions himself, then he will be able to enjoy such an action;
- maintain the positives of a measured life, persuade the patient to write them down to support daily motivation;
- save the patient from the ordinary social circle, for which it is better to move to a new place of residence;
- keep the former alcoholic interested in a new hobby, do not let him have free time to reflect on a boring existence. To do this, change his job, leave him with a hobby, the sport.
Be consistent in your campaigns and views.
- Give examples of important people in the alcohol society who have given up this addiction.
- Go together for a consultation with a psychotherapist and a narcologist.
- Adjust your personal position in family life by sacrificing or overly controlling the opposite.
Remember that only a correctly constructed motivation for addicts for treatment and a measured lifestyle will help convince the patient of mandatory treatment.