Living with an alcoholic is far from what girls dream of when they fantasize about their wedding day. It is hard to imagine that someone voluntarily wants to live "happily ever after" with an alcohol addict, endure his aggression or grievances about life, clean up after himself, take care of him, feel disgust and shame forhis behavior in front of neighbors, colleagues, friends and relatives. It is not surprising that an alcoholic's marriage breaks down if nothing can make him overcome his desire to drink. However, there are brave women who fight to the end for their family, implementing a series of measures against the drunkard, whose purpose is the same - so that the husband does not drink, in order to discourage him from ruining the life ofhim (both his and his relatives) with a harmful addiction to intoxicating liquor.
Constructive dialogue
The first thing you need to do is try to convince him. If the urge to drink is accompanied by problems outside the family - with work, career, friends and if alcoholism has not gone very far, it can easily be stopped, having met the support of relatives.
A constructive dialogue should only begin after careful preparation and taking into account certain rules:
- you can not talk to a person until he or she is in a suitable state and able to understand reasonable arguments;
- you should not try to convince an alcoholic while he is experiencing the "pleasures" of a hangover;
- it is undesirable to try to provoke regret or, conversely, to make scandals about a person who drinks (even in a sober state), most often it is the attention needed;
- you can threaten a drunkard, but it is important to prepare for the execution of that threat;
- Before you start a conversation, it is advisable to seek advice from a narcologist so that an alcoholic, if he has such a desire, goes immediately to the clinic for treatment.
If the woman manages to prove to the man she drinks, the need to seek help, to convince him to at least try to change his life, this man will have a chance. This can also be helped by compiling a so-called "motivation list". You can work together to come up with a number of reasons why getting rid of alcoholism will be not only easy but also rewarding. For example:
- to earn the respect of your children;
- to save money on a big purchase or vacation trip for a month;
- start learning something new instead of getting drunk or start building a career.
Reasons for each person can be individual. You can motivate for the sake of a hobby, for example, playing sports or playing with a car in the garage, the main thing is that he devotes all his free time to this and does not drink or be in companybad. You may need the help of a psychotherapist.
When obedience remains unanswered
Conversation, persuasion, prayer - in most cases, this is not enough to awaken the conscience.
It is seldom possible to prove to a drink that his lifestyle is destructive, because even if he believes in it, his strength to fight alcohol addiction may not be enough. Instead, the best medicine is traditional medicine and folk remedies.
Industrial pharmacology medications are designed to create a feeling of rejection of alcohol in a person who drinks, they can cause aversion to its drink, appearance, taste and smell. Just mix a drug similar to an alcoholic, add it to food or add it to a drink, and if he has also drunk vodka or even beer, he will immediately feel bad. Drugs with such an effect contain an active substance (either disulfiram, or cyanamide), which interferes with the normal process of processing ethyl alcohol, provokes the accumulation of metabolic products in the blood and, as a result, persistent symptoms of intoxication and hangover. And a person who has been ill at least once after alcohol poisoning, will have aversion to alcohol for a long time. If you add - a similar drug (Esperal tablets, Kolme drops and their analogues) a drunkard, you can make him think twice before taking another dose of alcohol.
Once the medication is effective, another attempt can be made to persuade the alcoholic to undergo treatment by describing the benefits of treatment at a drug treatment clinic:
- continuous monitoring of health status;
- psychological support, especially important for preventing relapse;
- qualified assistance in the restoration of internal organs damaged by ethyl alcohol abuse.
Treatment in a hospital under the supervision of a narcologist is the best anti-alcohol therapy, which practically does not fail.
Alternative medicine against excessive drinking is even smarter than how to make sick people stop drinking. Folk methods suggest the preparation of decoctions and infusions that act similarly to official medicines, point to completely original remedies:
- green bugs - you can throw 4 bugs in a glass of alcohol to cause an unpleasant smell and taste, and thus aversion to alcohol itself; pepper
- - you can persuade a person to give up drinking with the help of a solution (3 drops per 1 liter of alcohol), which is created from hot red pepper (crushed, 20 gr. ), filled withalcohol (500 ml) and infused for two weeks;
- birch smoke - you can seek to breathe on smoking rods and then offer alcohol, after which you will develop a strong aversion to products containing alcohol.
It is important to understand that treatment without the supervision of a specialist, even with traditional, albeit popular, methods must be performed very carefully, otherwise a person may not only have aversion to drinking and a desire not to drink anymore. , but also serious health problems.
The last phase of the war
When all methods of warfare are exhausted, there is only one last chance: to threaten the man with separation if he does not stop drinking. At the same time, it is important for the wife of a drunkard:
- be prepared to carry out your threat without multiple warnings (1-2 times will suffice);
- to leave her husband seriously, not to arouse pity and make him beg for forgiveness;
- not to believe promises, commitments and tears;
- start work quickly and easily - if the house belongs to the man who drinks, you should take out your belongings in his absence and leave for a while with the children;
- do not go back to drunkenness until he really proves that he has started treatment.
You should not return to your alcoholic husband if the situation with leaving and returning does not arise for the first time: sooner or later he will realize that his wife can not really leave him, no matter howdrunk.
To get rid of alcohol at home, not to allow drinking to occupy an important place in the party, to "remove" unreliable friends from home. . . . All of this is much easier to do than your spouse’s subsequent “poisoning” with means that arouse disgust for ethyl alcohol. A positive example is a good reason to give so that no one in the family drinks.